Names, pronouns and forms of address
Use the name and form of address someone chooses, ask briefly when unsure and correct mistakes without reducing the person to their identity.
Start with the chosen name
Use the name and form of address the person gives in their profile or conversation. A profile name may be a pseudonym. That is not a reason to demand a legal or former name. A friendly hello using the supplied name is enough to start a message.
Ask briefly when unsure
A photo, voice or category does not reliably tell you how someone wishes to be addressed. If needed, simply ask how they would like you to address them. Follow their answer and return to your actual reason for contact rather than asking them to explain their identity.
Correct mistakes and move on
If you use the wrong name or form of address, correct yourself briefly and use the requested one afterwards. A long justification makes the exchange about you and can add pressure. Do not debate whether someone’s chosen form of address matches your impression.
Respect limits on personal questions
Not every question is needed to get acquainted. Former names, medical steps and bodily details are private. Discuss the desired setting and the offer actually described instead. If someone does not want to share something, accept that without asking for further explanations or proof.
Frequently asked questions
Do trans, TS and TV mean the same thing?
No. People use these terms differently; they do not automatically describe the same identity. Follow the person’s own description and forms of address. Intimate questions are unnecessary for first contact.
Can category or appearance tell me about someone’s body or offers?
No. Trans, TS or TV, a photo and an appearance filter do not reliably describe someone’s body, personal history or services. Follow their own description. Ask only for information needed for a specific arrangement and respect boundaries without demanding justification.